I used to have this negative perception against those wives/husbands who decide to live separately – no, not the kind of separation when there’s a problem in their marriages, but the kind where one spouse lives and works in a different city/state/country than the other. I mean, I knew, most of the time it’s not by choice, but still, there must be something you can do about it. I used to throw comments like, mintak transfer je la, or if it’s not possible, resign je la. After all, once you marry someone, it just doesn’t make sense that you should live separately. Right?
Well, guess where I am now. Back at my parents’ place with my three kids while dear Hubby is away in Malacca. All those vows I made before, to follow him to the end of the world, to always be by his side (mainly not because I could not bear being away from him, but because I couldn’t trust him to be on his own..heheh) – all have been thrown out the window. I understand now the complications of marriage and raising a family. It involves making difficult decisions and lots, lots of sacrifice.
I had initially thought this long distance relationship would be difficult. It really surprised me that it’s not as difficult as I’d thought. Sure, I miss him a lot, but preoccupying myself with work and the girls really helped. I’ve also since become more independent. And our relationship with each other – better than ever. I guess the saying ‘distance makes the heart grow fonder’ really does ring true.
It does gets lonely sometimes though. But I’m lucky to have the girls with me. It saddens me sometimes to think that he’s out there all on his own. Poor Daddy.. :(
I keep reminding myself that the current arrangement is the best option that we have right now, for the good of the family. And it won’t be long before we’ll be together again as a family (I hope).
I now have more reasons to look forward for the weekends, where I get to meet Hubby and the girls could be with their Daddy.
We miss you, Daddy!! *sob sob*
Well, guess where I am now. Back at my parents’ place with my three kids while dear Hubby is away in Malacca. All those vows I made before, to follow him to the end of the world, to always be by his side (mainly not because I could not bear being away from him, but because I couldn’t trust him to be on his own..heheh) – all have been thrown out the window. I understand now the complications of marriage and raising a family. It involves making difficult decisions and lots, lots of sacrifice.
I had initially thought this long distance relationship would be difficult. It really surprised me that it’s not as difficult as I’d thought. Sure, I miss him a lot, but preoccupying myself with work and the girls really helped. I’ve also since become more independent. And our relationship with each other – better than ever. I guess the saying ‘distance makes the heart grow fonder’ really does ring true.
It does gets lonely sometimes though. But I’m lucky to have the girls with me. It saddens me sometimes to think that he’s out there all on his own. Poor Daddy.. :(
I keep reminding myself that the current arrangement is the best option that we have right now, for the good of the family. And it won’t be long before we’ll be together again as a family (I hope).
I now have more reasons to look forward for the weekends, where I get to meet Hubby and the girls could be with their Daddy.
We miss you, Daddy!! *sob sob*